Wednesday, July 07, 2010

Baha'i Dad Chronicles: 21 Months

This month was all about enjoying activities. Douglass Ali is lucky to have a mom who plans to take him on some adventure almost every weekend. This most recently included taking him to Newton, Massachusetts to celebrate the 4th of July. He also got to go to a Barbecue Beach Party sponsored by the Phantom Gourmet and to learn about boats downtown.

The Barbecue Beach Party was the one activity I was able to join them on. At one point right before we were getting on a Ferris Wheel it started to rain. We decided to do it anyway. Douglass Ali was squeezed firmly between mommy and daddy and got the best coverage from the very small umbrella we had. He smiled and said "Weeeeeeee" as the Ferris Wheel went round and round. His mommy and daddy shared a good laugh at it all as they both got soaked to the skin.

This month has also seen more words and phrases. Here are a few:

I don't want to.
No sleep
I want water.

He is fascinated by water by the way. He asks for it constantly and wants to play with it as much as possible. I taught him how to wash his hands and now he goes right into
the bathroom, turns on the sink and
starts fooling around with the water.
He even knows to put down the stopper so it doesn't drain out!

Another new behavior is playing with stuffed animals. His favorites appear to be a gorilla and a monkey (he can almost say monkey). One of his favorite books is "Goodnight Gorilla", so that might be part of his attraction to those particular toys. He pretends like they are his babies and puts them to bed and gives them water and so on.

An amusing twist recently is that he has been calling me "mommy" a lot. Any theories on why he might be doing that would be interesting to hear. He spends a lot of time yelling "NO" at us and being defiant and destructive. I guess that's just one of those stages or whatever. It's amusing at times though. Now, for example he will frown and cross his arms and kind of stomp around. Then he will find an object and throw it or just throw everything he can around the room. I can't help but laugh sometimes. He has also started going to the other parent when one of us won't let him do what he wants. He'll say, "I want mommy" and go looking for her or he'll come running into the room to find me, whining about this, that or the other thing his mom won't let him do. This is also amusing in it's own way.


  1. Anonymous2:03 AM

    Dear friend,
    You have been blessed with a truly lovely child, and it is equally lovely that you are enjoying every aspect of the development of this precious soul!
    One thought: Much progress has been made in the study of child development. Still, I humbly suggest that the Master in all cases be the touchstone and primary guide.
    One question that inevitably arises in parenting: should children be permitted to pass, without parental guidance, through "stages" of negative behavior? The Writings seem to indicate that, though these behaviors arise naturally, if not firmly yet gently uprooted, they have the potential, like weeds, to choke the flowering of a child's true and noble nature.
    For example, the following, particularly the last paragraph, provides much for parents to reflect and consult on:

    "Let the mothers consider that whatever concerneth the education of children is of the first importance. Let them put forth every effort in this regard, for when the bough is green and tender it will grow in whatever way ye train it.
    Therefore is it incumbent upon the mothers to rear their little ones even as a gardener tendeth his young plants. Let them strive by day and by night to establish within their children faith and certitude, the fear of God, the love of the Beloved of the worlds, and all good qualities and traits.
    Whensoever a mother seeth that her child hath done well, let her praise and applaud him and cheer his heart; and if the slightest undesirable trait should manifest itself, let her counsel the child and punish him, and use means based on reason, even a slight verbal chastisement should this be necessary. It is not, however, permissible to strike a child, or vilify him, for the child's character will be totally perverted if he be subjected to blows or verbal abuse.


  2. Wow, he's growing so much! Your little man is radiant, handsome and all the way around beautiful, Phillipe! I love these pictures and the update on his journey so far. Thank you for sharing this; it reminds me of how fortunate I've been to have had children and now, to have a grandson! There's nothing better except nearness to God!